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The "normal kid" brothers and sisters to raise children with autistic disorder

As a mother of two son, one with moderate to severe autism and the other not, I know from experience how it can be difficult to juggle the needs of all members a family where one member has special needs. Raising a child with autism is not an easy effort to find the right services for your child, working to improve skills development and coping with daily challenges unique to autism may represent much work (if not more!) as a full time job.

This article discusses the unique challenges facing our brothers and sisters of children autism: the children whose needs can sometimes be overshadowed by the more obvious their special brother. I am not a psychologist or a doctor, just a mother who made a fair share of mistakes, and picked up a few signs along the road. I hope these suggestions are helpful for you and your family.

Spend one-on-one time. Spending time alone with your child is a great way to make sure he or she does not get lost in the intricacies of everyday life, or crushed by all autism, all the time. My son and I have started a vegetable garden together, which gives quality time peaceful out for us. The tasty tomatoes, peppers, and carrots are a nice bonus too! We also make all from time to time, we just two, and it is my official helper groceries. activities like that can add up to some time during the week and a stronger relationship.

Teach your child about autism. Depending on the age of the child, there are a variety of media resources to help children understand autism, including books and movies. Teach your child the word and what it means for his brothers and sisters. For example, I started very simply with my youngest son when he was 3 years old, and said that his brother had autism, and had a hard time using his words. As he got older, I have explained more on impulse control, collapses, and food aversions – Kid-speak, of course! In this way, these are just simple facts he has in his mental file about his brother, along with useful information such as "has brown hair" and "loves trucks.

Acknowledge her feelings. Some days, you probably hate Autism, too, and really frustrated by the behavior of your child. Maybe you were embarrassed by the crisis in the grocery store too. You mourn for the child you may have. Your child may Grieve for the brother or sister, he / she might have too. acknowledge these feelings, without dwelling on them. Make it safe for your child to express his feelings without repercussions. Burying feelings is not healthy for anyone, including children, and this case, it may lead to resentment and guilt towards his brothers and sisters.

Make sure your rules are fair. In my house, the rule is that everyone does what he can do. Autism is not allowed to be an excuse. Even if my son was eight years moderate to severe autism, there are still many tasks it can do, with supervision and assistance. It is good for your child autism to learn responsibility and self-help skills. It is also good for demonstrating the principles of inclusion in law your own home. If your child has autism without household chores, and the autistic child does not work, resentment May also construct, and it something that should be avoided whenever possible.

Remember to praise positive. Praise your child. Frequently. If it does not come easily, try to use statements like "I love how you …" or "It makes me so happy when you …». Children need to hear more praise than criticism for developing a positive self-image. Cultivate the habit.

Have reasonable expectations. No child will behave perfectly. Just because your child has autism, does not mean he or she will be an angel. My husband and I made this mistake and are grateful when another mother, it is Out Kids (discreetly) for us. will be children. commit errors, inadequacies and limitations of testing are all part of the learning process. Are you perfect? I know I am not, and I do not expect not one of my children to be either.

Do not let autism rule the lives of your family. A diagnosis of autism can often do a lot of therapies and treatments and appointments with specialists. My son receives speech therapy and occupational therapy, twice weekly after school (on alternating days) for an hour each session. Parents who are following the protocols of the ACA can devote more time! It's tedious, but necessary. However, I refuse to schedule a therapeutic treatment on a Friday or weekend. This is our family time. I also organize to have my younger son participate in an after-school program he really enjoys, so he did not to sit in a clinic for an hour waiting for his brother. In this way, the therapy is completed, and none (with the possible exception of me) is bored in a waiting room.

Keep your marriage strong. One of the first things I read when I was researching my boy newly diagnosed disorder is the divorce rate very high among parents of children with special needs special. My husband and I agreed that we liked being married to another, and wanted to continue. Some of the strategies we have pursued in compliance with our marriage is strong keeping the night so far, at least twice a month. If you do not have reliable respite (parents or friends, for example), contact your local social services. social organizations of many services keeping lists of resources for consumers, including lists of agencies that provide services Respite care. Your marriage is worth the effort and expense! Other valuable information that I gained through this trip is the importance be patient and gentle with one another, and taking care of each other. You are partners in this journey of raising a child together, and the easiest way the more loving to complete the journey is still happily married. Both children need you.

Keep your stress level as low as possible. It's not as impossible as it sounds! I fully understand how this can be difficult. Raising children is a juggling act, to raise families with children with autism and autism is not an act of juggling on a unicycle. This is why it is so important to find private time to take care of yourself. I take care of my garden, meditate daily, take bubble baths with a good mystery or romance novel once or twice a week and focus on cycling elliptical exercise two to three times a week (if I like it or not). These are things that keep me sane, and refresh my mind. My husband plays video games and Poker Night with the guys. It's about finding what works for you. It is not selfish to find time for yourself. feeding your mind, body and spirit will help you be strong for your family.

I hope that following these suggestions will help as you raise your family "mixed".

About the Author

Mariann Bell is a devoted mom of two and a Feng Shui enthusiast who has used the techniques and cures of Feng Shui with great success at home and at work. Visit her online store, http://www.IndoorFountainsForLess.com to find quality indoor fountains at bargain prices!

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